marriage secrets...

Question

What's one thing you have learned to do differently to make your marriage better? Or one thing you think is important to a good marriage?

The Not-So-Fine-Print: If you're not married, look at your parents or a couple you know that has a good marriage and tell something you admire about their relationship. And no pressure to tell the most important thing; in fact, try to write something different than what's already been written, if you get tagged after several other people have already done it. If you get tagged, link back to whoever tagged you, so we can follow the trail and see what others have said.

My Answer

I've learned not to compare my marriage with someone else's. My husband doesn't send me like little emails like some husbands I've read about, he doesn't take me on "dates" like books say are necessary for any relationship, and he doesn't buy me diamond jewelry. On the other hand, I'm not a picture-perfect model of the ideal wife, either. We are who we are, and what we're doing works for us. When I read or listen to marriage seminars that tell husbands what they need to do and be for their wives, I always think of other things that are more important to me. Instead of letting someone else's marriage make me feel like I'm missing something that I'm supposed to feel entitled to, I like to focus on the unique things that make our marriage work--like the fact that my husband knows that I always appreciate gifts from the office supply store immensely more than jewelry!

I'm tagging Miss Roxie, the Headmistress, Donna-Jean, Queen Shenaynay, and Mama Squirrel.